As the OP has suggested this thread be locked, I will do so.

Just a couple of gentle thoughts before I lock it.

There is absolutely no doubt that many members have been through some very difficult and triggering times in their lives. PC is a wonderful place to get support and ideas from. We cannot possibly be everything to everybody. Nor should PC be used as a place where we talk about every little detail of our issues. There are many things that are much better dealt with in therapy than discussed in detail here. One doesn't need to know every detail in order to provide support to another.

Please remember in moving forward that the public discussion of any admin actions is against guidelines. And I would like you all to know as well, we (the team) do not go "looking" to see what we should close or remove from the forums. This is never done without discussion and concern for the OP and subsequent members replying. We are always willing to discuss privately, any actions taken, so please don't hesitate to pm us.

exoticflower, I understand the dilemma you are having with deciding whether or not to bring charges against your ex T. It must be very anxiety filled and heart wrenching to have to consider what is best for you. I'm sorry that you are in a position to even have to consider something like this. I'm not so sure that comparing with other situations will give you a definitive answer. Listen to your gut instinct.....it won't steer you wrong!

Be well all......


sabby