Ok so I hear what bebop and envision are saying. I will talk with him. I just want my husband back! I believe that I am at the point where if he were to start drinking again I would stay (i know that's wrong) but I would rather have him when he's drunk than not have him at all. I love him sooo much. I will try anything to make this work. I also know that if the drinking starts again then I will have to make a choice and I am afraid that I will choose him over myself. Man I sound seriously messed up and I am not making any sense. I will however try Alanon classes and who knows what the future holds but I suppose that I have to deal with the choices I have made as far as staying with him or leaving him should the drinking begin again. I will keep you posted as often as I can. I work ALOT but I will attempt to stay in touch often....thank you all and really keep the advice coming if anyone has anymore I appreciate all I can get.