I just want to re-iterate what others on this thread ve indicated. The way you feel about your T is quite normal.
Who wouldn't begin to experience feelings of love toward a person that is kind, shows us regard, is accepting and receptive?
It's a natural extension of being human and shows that, despite all that we have been through, that there is a part of us that can still respond to kindness, and that can still manage to love. On some level, they feel good, at least they did for me.
These feelings that you have do not have to derail the therpay, or drive a wedge between you and your therapist. You don't have to run from them, although you may have to sit with them a while.
Some therapists actually view the development of these feelings to be a very positive sign that the therapy is working. Especially those therapists who believe a good relationship is the basis for the essential work of therapy to begin.
Don't let the horror stories frighten you, two people can sit in a room and continue to work and hold the loving feelings in the room. They don't spoil anything.
Your therapist will likely accept these feelings as natural outgrowth of your growing trust. He owes you the respect and the respect for your therapy to keep them safe, honor them, and continue to help move your therapy forward.
I truly believe it's okay, it's really really okay.
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