Yeah. UGH. I did bring them into the open for the same reason, hoping it would make it easier. Hope your T has decent training or experience in this area. Mine does not (IMHO).

So, I'm tired after all this time of finding myself thinking about him every day. And the only way I can think of to "get over" him is to move on with my life. That's how I got over the other transference attachments in my past (teacher/professor). I graduated. I kept in touch for a while but then I just started to live my real life and stopped writing. The relationship meant so much more to me than to the professor (him/her), who was like a parent/friend/mentor to me.

I do think a really talented T can use the transference as a way to explore certain issues. I wish mine would, but he does not have that in his repertoire. Maybe I find someone else who does? The best thing I have learned from my T is that therapy is not scary, weird or bad. He's made me comfortable, and it's a huge gift. And, like those college professors, I love him so much, but it's not enough of a reason to stay.