I can't believe you allowed him to speak to you that way. He's very disrespectful to you and you deserve better than that.
I think he needs to be given orders instead of pleas and options. You're the ruler of the house. He should know and respect that.
Start charging him for cleaning services if he doesn't do his share of housework. And if the dog pees on the bed again, tell him if he doesn't train the dog properly than either the dog goes or he's going to have to clean up after it. If you can't get rid of the dog than make him lose being able to have the dog go into his room.
I don't think you complain, I think you're trying to create order in your household and that's what a parent does.
He sounds like if you let him, he'll just continue to get worst. I hope you find a way to discipline him so he starts treating you more respectfully. You have enough to worry about.