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Originally Posted by lynn P.
Can you share what the obsession is?
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The DeFeo murders. I think I have it all figured out though. Except motive, and some details.
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Originally Posted by Rainbowzz
could you put aside time each day to allow yourself to obsess(providing its a safe obsession) and then make a decision to wean yourself from it?
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Yes. I do at first. But eventually it consumes my every waking thought, self-discipline goes out the window, and I end up spending days in my basement going through piles of evidence and interviews (or the object of whatever the obsession may be at the given moment) until I lose interest. Of course, then I find something else to obsess over, and the process starts all over again.
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Originally Posted by TheByzantine
I would try to deflect the focus of the obsession by obsessing over how I could rid my mind of the deleterious obsession.
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That's what I'm doing. Or trying to do. I don't really get to pick what I obsess over. It did help when I was in therapy, or at least made it less intense.
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Originally Posted by ohseedee
Hello there, I can relate to your situation. It's VERY difficult to shake off an obsession. Depending on what the obsession is, I agree with Rainbowzz that you should put some time aside and allow yourself to obsess. If it's relatively healthy, then there's nothing wrong with it. Just make sure you don't do it in excess.
(I've actually been having issues lately with listening to music and going into my own world too much, so I'm going to try to take my own advice today! :P)
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I usually do that, but this is more of a thinking process than an action. Of course I could stop researching the case, but I'd still be thinking about it constantly. You know?