I have a lot of problems with extreme anger and irrational behaviors. I hate hurting my husband, but it seems like there is this uncontrollable monster inside of you. I have tried CBT, traditional counseling, etc. I am about to start Biofeedback, and I will let you know how that turns out. The only thing that works for me is if I can get to the gym before I explode. Excercise seems to keep my anger at bay, although it isn't foolproof. My husband and I made a deal that when he sees me turning into the 'bad' side, he stops me and has me do deep breathing. It doesn't always work, but 80% of the time it helps. I also give my husbad permission to walk away from me before I say or do something I'll regret. This is hard to do, as sometimes you just need to be heard, but it's better than the consequences of your actions. Hang in there.