What about going with her? My dad was uncomfortable with me going to concerts when I was about 13 or 14 so once my friend's dad went with us, my step-mom went to another....if they weren't 100% they would just go with me. I think though, that if she hasn't done anything to deserve the holding back, then she probably feels short-changed. I get that feeling bc I am uber-responsible (bc my siblings weren't) but my parents never gave me that feeling that they trusted me. I know now it's because of their own experiences but I deserved more credit than my brother who wrecked a car before he even got his license....

I think that you should actually be proud of her for being truthful with you. The thing I'm worried about is her lying about it because she knows you wont trust her. She is getting to that age when she has to start learning from her own mistakes. It sucks but sometimes you have to let them mess up and just be there for them when they do.