Grrrrrr that's definitely more information about him than we knew....Yeha he definitely needs to deal with HIS issues!
If "YOU" want to change this in yourself...then "YOU" go ahead withthe therapy...I do persoanlly think it will add to your life. do NOT do it jsut because of him or for him.
Affection and touch can be very reassuring....it can hurt when ya dont get it...
he has no excuse for hsi behavior...andyou have no need to "make one" for how you are.
I wish you much luck...and I hope it helps.