Also can be very helpful to look through lots of books on sexual addiction and related themes, public libraries often have many, as do bookstores. Patrick Carnes is one of many good authors.

Use whatever works for you and leave the rest behind, is a good motto. You can adapt techniques so they work for you.

http://www.smartrecovery.org/index.html

Smart Recovery is an alternative to 12 step programs, there are others available too. And if a 12 step program works for you, go for it, you can adapt it as needed. Some 12 step groups are heavily religious, some are not, if one meeting doesn't work for you at one location, try another.

I think the first goal when it comes to choosing a therapist is to find one with experience in sex addiction issues and also one that you feel a good possibly of connecting with. They might be a generalist or they might specialize, many possibilities.

Good luck!