Hello, perpetuallysad. You disclose in your profile the emotional and physical abuse you suffered at the hands of your parents. It seems you have been brainwashed into believing you are a worthless soul deserving of being treated badly. Has this issue been addressed in therapy?

There are many articles on self-esteem. Here is a good one: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/sel...9/METHOD=print

Learning to be more assertive seems useful too: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/***...2/METHOD=print

How to say no: http://stress.about.com/od/settingbo.../ht/say_no.htm

You have helped a lot of people here, perpetuallysad. It is long past time you did some serious work to help yourself. Please consider getting a referral to a psychiatrist for an evaluation and appropriate treatment.

Love yourself. Be well.