perpetually sad - I hear you loud and clear! It's so hard to say no, and I certainly haven't mastered it, but it sure is empowering when it does come out of my mouth.

I'm sorry you are dealing with this and that your sister is so domineering. She probably has her own issues which blind her to what she is doing to you, but if you never tell her, she'll never know. Of course, telling her may not help either. I've tried telling my dad similiar stuff - he turns it around on me and makes me feel worse and guilty on top of it. Now we just don't speak at all. It hurts, but in some ways, it's less painful. At least the ugly words fade and are not repeated.

Sorry, I'm just feeling my way in the dark too, but I can listen and be supportive. I hope you have better luck than I have had finding a way out of the dark.