I've never been in a relationship with an alcoholic but I have heard that the group Al-Anon is very helpful for people who have an alcoholic in their life to try and cope--because you need to take care of yourself! I would check out an al-anon group for sure, for your own sake so that you can get educated about the disease of alcoholism and try to better take care of yourself, and you'll get support from other people who know what you are going through. Then, after you get some help, maybe you can encourage your bf to go check out an AA meeting or something. But don't think that you can save him, you can only save yourself.