Deep sigh...I hear you. But man, after letting her stay with you and can later afford a Disney park? When's the last time you dropped your animals off so you can drop in on a Disney park or other vacation? Sometimes the hardest word in the world to say! I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I would also board her dogs and let her pay the vet bill and boarding costs. I think you both have been trained in your family roles for a long time. Keep working at it.