I'm sorry in advance but it sounds like you might act a little selfish in the relationship. You are making your depression a competition. Does it really matter who is MORE depressed than the other? Just because you are on more meds doesn't mean that she doesn't need a little help and support also. Even if you can't physically bring yourself to do the dishes or laundry, you could let her know that she is appreciated.

I think that you need to look at your priorities. My guess is that she gives you clues that she needs some help but either you don't hear them or don't know how to fix them. How often do you just hug her and tell her "I really appreciate everything you do for me". And making the money vs. cleaning the house...neither of those is more important that the others. And you shouldn't expect your wife to act a certain way just because of your money.

I think that you need to put yourself in her shoes. You are complaining that she isn't being supportive enough but have you ever thought about how it feels to be clam and collected all the time around someone with severe depression? You are not the only one feeling the effects here. Try to think of what SHE is going through.