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By socially awkward I mean with the opposite sex. Some people (I have seen both men and women do this) have such low self esteem that they do not think (consciously or not) another person will find them attractive without “buying” their love. Very often they mimic the traditional traits of a relationship such as communication and gifts (which are exaggerated because of that need to feel important to the other person).
It sounds like that first date set the tone for the relationship. You accepted what would normally be considered extravagant gifts and continued the relationship. Just because someone wants to give you something, does not mean you have to accept it. It is perfectly acceptable to say “thank you so much for the thought, but I do not feel comfortable accepting this.”
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I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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