Okay, private email. They are a lot like diaries. To the owner it is a growth tool, to anyone else it is a poisonous snake ready to strike. Now hopefully you have learned this lesson. And since you stated that things are rough - both of you have mentioned a lot of resentment, perhaps marrage counsiling would be in order. Ask her to dump her guy friend and ask her to help your marriage. keep posting and good luck to both of you.