Thanks, Kathy. I'm sorry for the tough times you've had. Your husband sounds like a saint, much more so than me... :-) And you are not to blame for your health problems, we do what we can with what we've got. That, and the treatment you have endured from other people, put my situation in perspective.

I would probably show less snark toward my wife if I understood the problem. She can't explain it to me. Nothing I have heard from her caregivers explains it. I have depression, but whatever is bothering her seems like more than that. If she doesn't love me, if she were seeing someone, if she wanted a divorce, I wish she would just come out with it. Above all, the situation now hurts the kids, and that's not right. It sounds like you have a good strong relationship. We did once, I want to get back to that, I know I need to keep listening and working if it is going to happen.