treehouse

I think you are right in saying that- "T. can't make it better"-- but I think you could be wrong in saying-- "T. can't help me".

People can get caught in the notion that someone else is going to make their life better-- when that's not how therapy works in the end.

I think of therapy as another "tool" in life. Like a car is a tool to get one to a place where one can earn a living(but the car won't drive you there itself) and a hammer is a tool that enables one to hang a picture(the hammer won't pound the nail in itself), a therapist is a tool that can help us in learning self-confidence, coping skills, how to have healthy relationships and many more things(but a therapist won't and can't make ones life better- by themself)

I think people can forget just how much power they possess within themself. Like a hammer needs a hand, a car needs a driver-- a T. needs a client to get to a goal. So while T. can't make it better-- T. can help you-- create a better existence.

I hope I don't come across as harsh or flippant..... on the contrary, I hear your pain and anguish and wanted only to respectfully help.

peace to you

fins