I think part of the problem is we don't HAVE enough friends...she is very reticent, guarded, like me...it might actually be nice if she had someone she vented to a lot, just not someone I am friends with too!

You are so right about communication, there is such a big breakdown there. It's hard for both of us--evening is a bad time for both of us, physically and mentally, yet so much of our together-time is evening.

Sounds like your hubby is doing a great job.