I spoke to my friend and she said that it was a big deal and she has to do something about it. I told her I spoke to the mom. She said that she is going to call her friend (its a small world here where I live) at Family Services to get advice on how to proceed with the child and the family and how they will investigate. She will let me know what they sat about speaking to my daughter (them or me).

So, that is where it stands now. I feel badly that my daughter was exposed to this terminology and to someone talking about this act. My d tends not to censure herself and might bring this up again at any time. Especially in relation to "sucking" which the little girl seems to have made a big deal over. Maybe I should talk to her about "lollypops" or things that we do suck on? Instead of her bringing this up in relation to what her friend told her?