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Originally Posted by JLB0589
I have been in a relationship with this guy for almost 4 years now. He has been talking about getting married since after our 1st year. Needless to say, I'm still just his girlfriend. Anyway, he hasn't ever been abusive or anything, but we have some major differences. We are from different Christian faiths which has been difficult but we are dealing, his family and mine have completely differet values (his younger brother still sleeps in the same room as his parents.... And he just started middle shool), and I love meeeting new people and explorig and he is pretty much a homebody. I have been doubting our future for quite some time now.... About 6 months. I have been trying to see if this is just a phase or if it is not meant to be. We are both well into college, and I have met lots of new people and have been wondering "is there something better out there? Is this it? Is this all there really is?" could this just be cold feet because he hasn't proposed, or should i try again with someone new? Thanks for all your help guys.
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I have been going through the same thing. With a guy for four in a half years but we were going to get married. We had our differences and a death in his family changed him so much. I thought what if there was something better and started looking elsewhere. It is healthy to try looking elsewhere but whatever you do do not cheat because i did and it changed everything. I mean he still took me back but mentally I am not doing well at all...Try seeing other people and if he never leaves your heart and you never leave his, work things out again. You must understand everyone has flaws, and marrying them means marrying their family. Same for yours, he has to deal with knowing your family is the way they are too. If you truely love eachother, nothing else should matter. Feelings conquer it all.