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Originally Posted by farmergirl
Peaches, maybe I am thinking of the wrong person, but didn't you try to do this a few months ago. I thought you had this email thing worked out with your t so you had some boundaries that were workable for both you and your t. (Sorry if I'm thinking of the wrong person; it's hard to keep everyone straight.)
I think your plan to not expect a reply unless you specifically ask for one is reasonable. Why do you have to take it to no emails at all?
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Hi Farmergirl,
Yes, you're right. We did talk about this not long ago. My t said she'd do her best to reply in a timely way, but that sometimes it would just not be possible to get back to me until later. I said OK. But after waiting all day for a reply this week and still not having it by the time i went home for the day, I felt bad again. I had a pretty strong hunch that she wasn't going to repy at all because I realized the question i had asked her wasn't really urgent and could have been interpreted as personal. (I had told her I'd taken the Myers Briggs test and had the most rare personality and wondered if she'd taken it).
I need to try not to email at all because it feels so bad to me to wait for hours or days! The problem is that i've always needed some kind of touching base, a reminder of the connection, midweek. Maybe i need that reminder of the connection itself, even more than the actual substance of the response. I've pared way down in my emailing, but find that i need at least 1 email exchange between sessions. But maybe i need to just learn to go without. Because not hearing back for hours feels bad. And knowing she's busy makes me feel guilty for doing it at all.