i can't get over a 25 year, 9 kid marriage that just disintegrated. obviously i have my problems, but my ex was hypomanic, borderline and used fighting to become aroused. cognitive therapy sure beats drugs, but as i mentioned on another post, fish-oil has really helped, as has eating salmon and sardines. as for your hubby's memories of what you said or did? i got the same story from my ex---perception is not understood, so it gets tricky. i wouldn't assume fault on that. my ex and i still keep in touch by e-mail---sometimes she rants about what i said, so i ask her to review her mail and often get an apology. not suggesting you and your husband sit across the room e-mailing each other, perhaps he could sit-in on your therapy session a couple times and discuss this.

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