Salukigirl, thanks for the idea, but yes he HAD thousands of still pics of me, and I even allowed him to shoot several videos, he likes stories, so I took what I knew he liked and wrote for him using events he voiced as arrousing. When I found out about the ex, I destroyed all his material involving me...... Flora, I totally get your point as well, I didn't have a problem until he missed a car payment and drove to the neighboring state 2.5 hrs away in search of it. What really tripped my trigger was the ex...and from all evidence I can find he was using her as porn (she was mean as heck to him...even she says so). I guess maybe I am overreacting, everyone I know uses porn (ive just never seen much to it, I'd MUCH rather my guy)...and I've never refused him.