ThePainNeverDies, don't let those scoundrels at work get to you. Ignore them. As far as Connor, in my view he is making it worse for you. He will talk to you when he wants to talk. Then he gives you this stuff about improving.

If as you say you do not want to rely on him, get a good base of support that does not include him.

You are a good person, ThePainNeverDies. Work harder at looking out for yourself. Don't allow these people to play games with you.

Good luck.