I have been married for 10 years and recently I had an affair, which I quickly ended. Immediately I knew it was wrong and forgave myself, hoping I would never have to tell my husband I was unfaithful. Two weeks ago, a person who I thought was my friend, someone I confided in at this low point in my life, shared this secret with my husband. As this came out in the open, I admitted my infidelity and my husband and I have been struggling to work through this nightmare. In the meantime, unbeknowst to me, both my husband and this person have been communicating via email for the past several weeks through his work email. Only Friday, did I find out this truth and I'm torn. He shared with her his feelings, his emotions and she has been playing both him and myself during this period. At the same token she has been emailing me at work, but the message was quite different. How do I get past this pain?