For me, no one was telling me I abused alcohol. There was some frustration on a friend's part, that if I couldn't afford to drink, I wouldn't go out. But that was it. There was no intervention, no scolding. I think that for me, if anyone had told me I had a problem and should quit, that I would have gotten angry and ignored them and kept on. For me, I had to hit my own bottom and come to my own realization that I was a problem drinker and needed help. I am very blessed in this, that I decided to quit on my own. About 7 years ago, I was hanging out at a coffee shop that had a lot of recovery. I believe the seed got planted in me there, before I ever starting abusing alcohol. Somethine those people talked about stuck, and came back to me before my life fell apart. I am not a tough love kind of girl, but some people are. Unfortunatly, some people never realize they have a problem, or never want to get help. There is nothing we can do about it. My only advice is to gently let them know you are concerned, and maybe even point out the people here who are recovering, and the changes you notice. Best of luck to your friend. =)

~Rayna