My family pushes me away because I can't forgive people that have hurt me. My mother has been the one who has hurt me more than anyone in my life. Not being able to forgive is going to kill me? But do I really have to forgive to begin to heal and feel happy again? I am sure the abuse from my mother will continue tills she passes. She has been abusing me for years. I put up with it for so long but now that I have tried fighting back it has backfired on me. My family thinks I should just get over it. If it were that easy I would be dealing with it at 47.