Hi All

I'll make this as short as I can. My husband and I have been married 10 years. We live next door to a couple that we've become close friends with. I've suspected for a long time now that my husband is attracted to the wife. He's even dismissed my feelings on a few big issues (I wanted to limit playdates with their son because of his diagnosed emotional problems that were adversly effecting my kids) where he ignored my pleas. He will set up playdates without checking the schedules or consulting me. He has readily welcomed their son into our home life (the boy has beaten and teased my kids) while at the same time ignoring my 13 year old daughter.

I found out from her that my husband brought her into our house to look at my sons new room while I was not here. I am VERY upset as I think it is inappropriate.

He does not know how I feel (yet) Any idea why I feel so angry and scared? It's very clear to everyone around us that he likes her. He perks up and gets very chatty and witty when he see her while I get the lovely monotone.

Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks!