Hello, serenitywish. What is particularly disconcerting is your husband's willingness to jeopardize the well-being of your children to remain in the good graces (clutches?) of your neighbor's wife. I assume her husband must of noticed what others have. Problematical too is the neighbors allowing their son to act out his problems at your place.

It seems to me hormones have shunted logic aside. You and Mr. testosterone need to have a serious discussion to ensure the safety of your children. His interest in the Mrs. cannot be tolerated as a means to have your children beaten.

Good luck.