I think its incredibly cool how honest you are being jexa. I know that I appreciate it, especially since its something I have "known" for myself, though never had directly confirmed. So here's what I think: does it matter if they are being sincere or not if you BELIEVE they are sincere? I mean, wouldn't you get the same thing out of it if they were faking it all, but did a wonderful job of making you feel ok?

I know I read a lot on here about how this T loves this client and really cares about him or her and I know its me being my cynical self, but I have to wonder to myself how true these feelings are. I've often had the urge to say something to the poster about how this feeling of the Ts would be impossible to maintain with all clients and therefore probably not the way their T actually feels, but then I have to consider how much it really matters if the feelings the client thinks the T has and the T's actual feelings are the same thing. Seriously, if what you need the very most (I'm using the generic you, not actually you, jexa) is someone whom you feel unconditionally loves you and your T appears to give you unconditional love, is that wrong? You are very correct when you say that Ts are human and have human responses to things. I think a lot of times people have really high (and unfairly unrealistic) opinions of what their Ts can and cannot do, and what their Ts true feelings are. Does this make any sense at all?

SO, what I am trying to get to is that what if it does sort of get on her nerves, but she is professional enough and good enough at her job that its "ok" with her and she accepts it, while providing you with what you need by saying its alright? Isn't the same result being reached? Isn't this really one of those ultra existential things where we really can't truly know what anyone's thinking or feeling without the other person telling us what they think and feel?

An aside: I get the feeling of wanting to piss someone off and push them away when things are making you feel weird, for lack of a better way to describe it. I do this often to my husband and have done it to innumerable past friends. And often the things someone says when they are pissed off are just the things they are feeling at that moment. So even if you did annoy her until she snaps, its doesn't mean you would get more truth out of her, it just may only give you what you think you need to hear her say.