I used to work in mental health, with a caseload of clients. I can tell you very honestly that I did have one client who REALLY got on my nerves...to the point I had to ask for her to be moved to someone else's caseload, because I didn't feel like I could do good work with her. I know my T refers people that he feels he can't work with, and I think that is good self-care. The fact that all of our T's are still working with us seems like a good sign

I did have a few clients that I really did love. I liked all of them, very much. I was frustrated when some people would refuse to do the work, but I still liked them. A few were just extra special to me, and even though I haven't worked with them in over 10 years, I think of them from time to time and wonder how they're doing. I think that sometimes we just connect with certain people for whatever reason. So I do believe a T's feelings of love can be real.

When I worked in mental health, we did talk about the clients occasionally in a venting kind of way. We all knew each other's clients, so it was easy to say "this thing Joe is doing is driving me crazy" or whatever. We were just people and the clients were people too, and it was just natural to have those conversations.

Jexa, it seems like you are really aware of how you are feeling, and that is huge. You are able to describe it perfectly. when do you see t? It would be SO good to be able to start processing this with her. It seems like maybe you are on the cusp of big forward movement....which always ALWAYS feels like the worst possible place to be, at least for me.

to everyone