Bless You and You have found a friend who knows about depression, at least. An antidepressant agent probably would help. Effexor XR at a relatively high dose of 325 mg daily, helps me to some extent. But I know what it is to have such difficulty with bathing, cleaning, the proverbial "activities of daily living" and low motivation. That is the hardest one I keep thinking - until I accidentally forget meds for a time - and get all the negative thoughts. Cymbalta is good for some people, working all 3 neurtransmitters, rather than 2. I don't mean to advertise here. Different antidepressants for different folks, with special caution for the bipolar. I do with you luck, love, and good pdoc. billieJ