I'm really glad you guys talked. That is going to help more than anything. Especially if she can start to see you as a confidant more than ya'lls friend. I hope the visit with her to the pdoc goes well too. And I'd just like to reiterate what AAAAA said, it really does sometimes get where the best you can do is just partially function and its the "stuff" that puts you over the edge. Maybe she's just not at a place where she can get up and be awake AND do household/family stuff and stay in any sort of sane place? I'm so happy you are talking to each other!