katie,

I'm sorry that you are in this rut. I'm right there in the next rut over...
It's hard to take care of looking good outside when you don't feel good inside, but your boyfriend may really not have a clue about what depression can do to a person. For the first 5 years of my marriage, my husband was always telling me that I needed to try harder to be happy, that if I quit wallowing in my depression, I'd feel better. It took a long time to convince him that I wasn't doing it on purpose and I really couldn't just "decide" to be happy.

So, my point is that it could go either way - maybe you are reading the situation clearly, he's lost interest - so if that's the case, then why would you want someone that shallow and non-supportive?

However, it could be that because you are depressed, you are not hearing the message beneath his words. Maybe he wants you to try harder because that's the only answer he can think of and he wants you to be happy again...in which case, it's not that he has lost interest, but he has no way to "fix" you and it frustrates him. That was definitely the case with my husband. Like I said, it took 5 years to convince him that I couldn't be "fixed" easily and that my depression was a disease, not a choice.