Hi, Sun_flower! More dissimilarities than similarities in our respective situations, but I find myself returning again and again to your post.

The marital tension is a biggie. I fear that may be fueling your children's attitudes toward you, at least in part. Of course, when you've got two teenagers and one on the doorstep of teenage, you've got a big challenge depression or not.

Have you applied for disability? Any type of official recognition in that department could open doors to assists to get back into the workplace. Then again, were you to go back to work, how would that affect the household?

These are just stray thoughts. Keep posting...