Sorry to hear. I can relate to some of the living space stuff. I had to do a big clean 2 days ago b/c building mgmt is coming in to look at the plumbing of everyone. I only cleaned the direct spaces they needed; leaving the embarassingly bad rest of it as is. Having others come into one's living space is a very big boundary crossing and tough to deal with for me.

Why are t, crisis line, etc. useless?

A support person is there to be used, isn't s/he?

I'm very worried and wish I could say something helpful.