I am old here not written in awhile my husband and I still seperated(4years)

he has his girlfriend living with her a year and some months ,me still in love with the fool.I want to wash him out of this brain of mine finding it hard as we have been having our little weekly breakfasts all of a sudden over a month ending with a hug and short kiss on the lips(mixed signals for me,sure not for him)My stupid daydreams of them having problems ,,,maybe a breakup ha ha ..none the less leaving me back to my lonliest days from way back when hoping for him to be back to being MY HUSBAND AGAINwhwere he should be.He told me recently he will never divorce me he has no plans to,nor ever getting married again ,,,what gives so cruel ..I know I am ranting ...any men any ideas ,,,does he have feelings possibly for me unresolved am I just wishing...I have tried to move on many times ..a few men have fallen in love with me then I run away feeling unloveable...or maybe still faithfull to a man unfaithful to his own wife...ANYONE >>>>