Sorry its a bit long...I know inlaw relationships are not always the best but this is severe. We are very successful as a husband and wife and as parents. They are so negative towards us (including their son, my husband). Its not that they just don't like me, but our daughter too and my husband.

They are extremely negative. We can't share anything positive with them because they turn evil. Mainly the mom. She calls and worries hubby by saying 'I dreamt something bad will happen to you. Watch out for your self. Recently my husband got a very good job and we've felt even more negativity since then (both her and my husband's brother, not his dad though). Last time my husband stopped by on his own and as soon as he walked in she said I dreamt you got laid of from this new job. All my dreams come true. And was just so negative. And this stressed my husband out a bit. They are also very negative towards our daughter. People always say she's very advanced for her age and when they hear other say that, they seem to hate it. It seems as if they would like her to be and know less than she does. (I say they because father in law never opposes to any of her behavior) On the other hand, everything is perfect and the best about our nephew. She feeds him and won't offer to my daughter who visits maybe once a week only and the newphew lives there.Last time she was feeding the newphew, when my daughter asked for some she said to her you can't have it. I can't say she hates our daughter but she certainly doesn't seem like she loves or cares for her much. She never valunteers to watch her. Would rather spend time around my husband than all three of us together. And I don't mind her spending time with husband but all they do is bring him down with the negativity and then he stresses about it. She also rarely says what she means, and will sugar coat things as if she's doing you a favor but really its in her best interest. My husband doesn't always see that and sometimes I don't either right away but later than I realize what she actually meant. So she knows that its easier to manipulate my husband than I.

By the way, the brother, sister in law and the nephew are all the best. They never put them down, always are happy for them no matter what but always look at us negatively. And we are very successful and very well off. I offer to help them when I can but they always refuse MY help, my husband's help they're ok with. They also refuse to help me. Never want to watch our daughter even for an hour. And yet is too occupied with our nephew.

Husband sees all this. He feels the negativity and that they don't like us so to speak and is very down with all this. We don't know how to deal. PLS any suggestions? Its affecting us a lot. Every time we visit, we both feel bad (low self worth, disrespected, as if she doesn't like our daughter, just wanting to brings us to the bottom) and we argue because he doesn't know why they do this. He doesn't want to loose them completely because he will feel bad that I have my parents around and he doesn't. He thinks that by saying anything they'll just turn their back at him.

I think if they do then they were never even worth putting up with for all this time in the first place, but I understand that its easier for me than for him since its HIS parents.

PLS HELP!