Thanks for asking!
No progress really. I guess we are at that stage where everything could just coast for a really long time. The main issue is not having time together, we can never talk about anything because we never have one on one time. He invited me to dinner with his work people last night, and he sees that as him "doing well" by including me. I am trying to schedule and hour with him to make some basic decisions about our house/finances and we can't even find time for that, let alone a heart to heart. I really do think he thinks he is trying hard, but I also think deep down he is afraid of addressing what needs to be said or done between us. When we had our crisis, he said stuff that really hurt me, like he didn't think he was "in love" with me anymore, we don't have fun together, and he is not attracted to me anymore. I don't know how much of that was true, how much came from the fact that another woman was showering attention on hi and giving him that thrill of first romance, which of course, being married for nearly 12 years, I can never compete with. But how can we have fun together when we never even do anything together? He prioritises everything above me, above our relationship. I have tried everything to make him talk, make him find time. Now it is up to me whether I:
1.just accept it and "settle" for what we have,
2. be patient and hopeful that one day he will see the light and things will change, or
3. admit nothing will ever change, decide I need more in life and move on

I don't think there is anything else I can do now. I am all efforted out! :-) It's time for him to step up or me o accept he won't. I feel a bit tired and sad, but strangely not depressed. I am past the weeping and wailing. I know I will be ok, one way or the other. Just need to make a choice, I suppose.