Lynn I am sorry you are going through all of this. Its amazing how petty and vindictive some people can be at the cost of children! I can see why you wouldn't want her to have the chance to hurt your girls again. I have to agree that if she loved them in the first place, she wouldn't have stopped seeing them so abruptly and certainly not because "her mommy" didn't like it! I can see where TheByz is coming from about asking the girls, but then again, I know that kids really work from their hearts on stuff and would likely make the choice that would end up causing them pain again. So, I guess I have absolutely no advice, but I do want you to know you have my support. You are their mother and it is ok for you to limit them seeing someone who hurt them so much, especially for selfish reasons.

How likely is your husband to do what you want on this? I know you have talked to him, but perhaps you could explain that while you don't care if HE has a relationship with the SIL that you would rather not let her see your girls again?