My heart goes out to you. You are caught between a rock and a hard place, in my opinion except in one area. I wish you and your husband could at least work out something to tell this negative woman to lay off your daughter ! I cannot imagine a grandmother acting that way. I am a Nana and let me tell you God gave us Grand children as a unexpected blessing in the later part of our lives. I won't say my Grandchildren are perfect, however they are one of the best things that I have been blessed with in my life. Believe me I have been blessed many times God has literally saved me from death's door twice, even that is not as shining as my grandchildren ! Please don't think I am ungrateful that he blessed me with new chances at life, I thank him everyday for all he does for us. You and your husband sound like great people and your daughter is I am sure a sweetheart, who I would be proud to call my grandaughter ! So you may seriously want to limit time around these negative people. Your marriage and family (you, your husband & daughter) are your main concerns. Remember the bible even says, You leave your parents house and cleave unto your husband and or wife. That is not a correct quote however that is the meaning of the passage. You take care and please know I will send up a prayer for you. The hurt you must be feeling I wish I could someway make go away or a least make lighter. Just know if you need to talk we are all here for you !
Love & Prayers,
Betty Boop