Hi, Plutarch,
Everyone here has given good insights and advice.
I also have studied they cycles of grief. In my exp (and I believe everyone's is different), the cycles were not clean-cut in going from one to another, but overlapping, and even taking steps back before taking baby steps to move forward. While, yes, I did recognize the stages, eventually moving beyond them, there is another aspect of grief that I believe has nothing to do with the cycle model.

In my case, I"ve recognized that as a child I was programmed to be unhappy, and that is the state in which I'm most comfortable. My role models for romantic relationships were destructive and unhappy, and, without recognizing what I was doing, I gravitated toward (or created) the same in each attempt I made to find a partner. At the demise of each attempt, I spent inordinately long times in recovery and "grieving," till finally a lightbulb came on. I realized the grief was that which was familiar, and that I subconsciously created the grief situation for myself repeatedly.

It was hard to acknowledge this nature within myself, and something which is only recent for me. I'm not suggesting that you have the same patterns, since you discussed something entirely different. Just wanted to share.
Patty