Thank you ((AAAAA)) and ((bloom3) for your caring words and wisdom. I spoke with both girls at dinner tonight, their father wasn't there. I told them the whole story about why their aunt stopped visiting them or calling - I made a point of sticking to the facts and not being emotional. I told them she expressed an interest in coming to see them. I thought the youngest would jump and say yay - but she was the 1st to say "no I don't want to see her" and then the oldest said "I don't either". If things ever change and she does come I will take the advice from you AAAAA and speak with her 1st and then have her explain and apologize to them.

I think what hurt me the most is, they idolized her and used to get so excited when she came and all of a sudden - nothing!! Off and on they would ask me, "why doesn't she ever come - doesn't she love us anymore"? I don't want them to experience that feeling of - if you do what we want, you're in with the family and if you don't you're an outcast. There's so much phoniness in his family and I never feel I can trust them.