   (((((lynn P.))))) I was never able to have children, but I still can imagine how angry I would be in your situation with your SIL. The bottom line is that your SIL betrayed your and your innocent little daughters' trust - and mutual respect and trust are the foundation of any healthy relationship. Such betrayal is not something that can be overlooked or rectified with an apology and explanation because there just is no justification for your SIL doing that knowing full well that it would inflict so much hurt - you don't do something like that to someone you profess to love - and if she didn't know or didn't care that her actions would do such harm, then she's likely to be just as emotionally abusive towards you and your children again when it serves her interests.
Further, what she did could damage the trust your daughters have placed in you since they rely upon you as their mother to protect them. I understand that you want them to have some connection to their extended family, but toxic people are toxic whether related to you or not - and your SIL has proven that she is not worthy of your or your daughters' trust. I know it's a tough situation and exercising diplomacy in family relations is necessary at times, but your first priority as a parent is to act in the best interest of your children and to teach them to respect themselves enough to protect themselves from such abusers. You know that you're a good mom, Lynn, and you will do what your heart tells you is right and is in the best interest of your daughters.lynn09
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"I walked a mile with Pleasure; she chattered all the way, But left me none the wiser for all she had to say. I walked a mile with Sorrow and ne'er a word said she; But oh, the things I learned from her when Sorrow walked with me!"
(Robert Browning Hamilton; "Along The Road")
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