Hi ChippyGal,

I think the fact that you mention he has (or might have) PTSD or depression states a lot. People who are depressed often don't act rationally. So he could even be in to you on some level... but the depression always takes center stage. Like Byzantine wrote, his brain might still be on Iraq as well as any trauma he has suffered there. Since you have been here (on this site) before it sounds like you have had some tough going in your own life. Maybe now wouldn't be the best time to pick it up with a guy who is suffering in this way? My advice would be to tell him you enjoyed the time you spent together and that you are experiencing him being distant. Then you might say you are worried about his depression, and mention there are resources he can use whenever he is ready. Public Television ran an good series called "This Emotional Life," that had a part on PTSD:

Then I would try and move on. It know it's not easy, but it sounds like you have enough to deal with already in your own life. Since you broke up recently... maybe just some alone time or time with friends? Therapy has been very helpful to me when I have been lonely and/or hurting. It's like having someone on your side. Hugs.