Yes I agree - the week prior to this happening plans were up in the air with her friends - as to who was going. She hinted that they might bring their 'boyfriends' - I have a hard time with 12 yr olds saying they have BF's. But I did give her credit for being truthful and even she didn't know that those girls had invited a 3rd boy. My daughter thought 2 of her GF's were going with their 2 BF's - but they invited the 3rd boy.

About a month ago I let her go to her 1st school dance, so I'm letting lose a little and she gets to go to girls houses and she has a best friend next door. She also got to go to a 2 day leadership camp through the school and this was her 1st sleepover experience and there were boys and girls there. Like I said I don't want to be the ultra strict parent nor do I want to give too much freedom. I hope to instill good morals and be somewhere in the middle. Thanks to everyone who responded so far.