You say he doesn't want to pressure you, but expecting you to work 2 jobs when you are already having a mentally difficult time dealing with one is putting a lot of pressure on you. I don't have a solution, I really wish I did. I feel the same guilt as you, because we could be doing much better were I not such a freak and could hold down a job. But you are doing really well. You do have a job and regardless of his impression, even teaching one class a week is a demanding and draining experience. I know it doesn't mean much, but I think you are awesome. Its my dream to be a college professor.

Oh, I just had an idea, though it may not work for you...do you have any other higher learning institutions within a reasonable drive of your area? If so, maybe you could find another adjunct position. If you found 2 then you would obviously increase your work load, but not as much as if you worked as a secretary full time AND taught.

Also, how easy is it to get any sort of job where you live? Are there tons of sec. jobs in the paper everyday? If not, how does he figure you will just land in some fabulous paying secretarial job anyhow? I am really not trying to bash your hubby, I am sure he's wonderful, I just hate to see you "settle" when you are already struggling to find happiness in your life. I can only imagine how much sadder things will be if you are working 70 hours a week. Oh I wish I had a good idea for you. Hey, I'm going to send you a pm about a suggestion someone else gave me...