Hi Periwinkle Blue and Welcome!

I've been told by a couple therapists that my mother has borderline personality disorder and also narcissistic tendencies. I feel for you having a narcissistic mother-- it's tough.

As a child I was treated according to whatever happened and how it affected my mother. Like, when I had the stomach flu-- she would yell and be physically harsh-- if she had to clean anything up. She desires being the center of attention-- which has caused competition with her own daughters- she has to shine brighter than any of us! She is never wrong, when trying to tell her how some things she has done hurt me-- she turns it and makes it my fault!! --- so many different situations I could share-- If you like- you can PM me .

As a child, I learned to put her needs way ahead of mine to keep the peace and to this day have a hard time reaching out to anyone when I need help--- guess I think others will be upset with me.

I wish you healing in your relationship with your mother and with yourself. t/c ( take care)

mandy